tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8158493753176321093.post3186104834895609826..comments2017-12-05T02:15:29.377-08:00Comments on Right Brain Wrong Body: Brothers and SistersBeth Lockehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02413523125628243429noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8158493753176321093.post-24092273042571973572017-05-26T03:14:59.823-07:002017-05-26T03:14:59.823-07:00I still have to tell my other brother. I'm not...I still have to tell my other brother. I'm not looking forward to that, we were always distant and he is "manly man, riding dirtbikes and hanging with other macho guys." Sigh, has to be done. <br />I know, it's hard to know where your obligation ends. I liked a lot of the advice I got on FB. Just tell those you are close to, let the others find out. Lucy has a wonderful support system with you and the children, so even if there are bumps, this too shall pass.<br /><br />I don't feel ashamed at all. I am actually kind of proud. It's the strangest feeling of "this is where I am expected to feel ashamed" that I got from talking with my brother. I don't think he intended to give me that feeling, it isn't his fault at all. But that is the thing about brothers and sisters, we can get under the skin.Beth Lockehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02413523125628243429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8158493753176321093.post-34904707579927349752017-05-26T03:09:54.136-07:002017-05-26T03:09:54.136-07:00Thanks. I found it was easier to tell my friends, ...Thanks. I found it was easier to tell my friends, they really knew me better than my brothers. My brothers have all these memories of mostly me being "manly" or whatever my mask did to keep me hidden.<br />You know how when you drive long distances you go into a kind of blackout but still completely in control? I let my mask drive for a long time, that is what my brothers remember. It's hard to get past that.Beth Lockehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02413523125628243429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8158493753176321093.post-8582137122248538362017-05-26T01:14:42.464-07:002017-05-26T01:14:42.464-07:00Well done for telling him. At least he knows now. ...Well done for telling him. At least he knows now. I always wonder about who to tell and how. I have a very large tight knit family and am in regular contact with most of them (including cousins) and we are all on a whatsapp group. Just thinking that when the time come to posts a message and be done with it. As for non close friends or friendship groups I'm not sure although I am pretty sure that it will disseminate quite quickly once it is out there.<br /><br />Don't every feel you should feel ashamed but don't. Not being ashamed is a good thing.<br /><br />xAvril Clarkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16563764797328640219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8158493753176321093.post-74503148057741774562017-05-18T02:40:05.758-07:002017-05-18T02:40:05.758-07:00A few really good points here.
" I’ve always...A few really good points here.<br /><br />" I’ve always had this thing about not wanting to appear foolish, it stems from having to live in a male body and not coping well with it. I always felt foolish, until I had the house alone and could be me, those few times I didn’t feel foolish." That sums up my early life so well.<br /><br />" I’m not really sure at what point my responsibility to tell people who I am ends. I mean, do I really need to tell family I will likely never see? I have cousins I haven’t seen since I was a teenager, what is the likelihood I would need to tell them?" Family is just a starter pack of friends and many just fall by the wayside as we grow and cease to be a full part of our lives. They do not all need to be told, if they are a real part of the family word will eventually get out that you have made a successful change.<br /><br />"I wasn’t ashamed, I just felt like I should feel that way." The world has made us feel that way, once we realise that we have no need to feel that way we are free to finally be ourselves."<br /><br />Good luck.Colinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01667939789517989280noreply@blogger.com